I have always believed that nobody can or should say authoritatively that he or she understands this thing called love or relationship (intimate relationship) in its entirety, we can only define or describe it based on our experiences and understanding of it. Knowing that our understanding and experiences are relatives, hence the reason I will never brag to have understood everything about relationship, sex or even marriage.
Before I proceed to today’s topic, let me officially welcome you to another interesting episode of REAL TALK WITH TEE. Thank you so much for your feedback last week, they were very welcoming and encouraging.
Today I want to talk about the very belief I have that sex is overrated. This really has nothing to do with if I have had a bad very bad sex-experience, but me talking from what I have seen so far. The attention and hype given to it have got a lot of people thinking they are not good enough for their girlfriend or their boyfriend is not hitting the right spot, especially the way Nollywood and Hollywood have presented it. For the virgins, they feel they are missing and for the married or those in a relationship, they somewhat feel they are not getting enough from their partners
Don’t get me wrong, Sex is great, one of the best things ever especially when you are having it with someone you have this awesome feeling for, but the pressure to have sex is vastly overblown.
Having sex when you aren’t ready is a recipe for a bad time. Again the question of when is the right time to have sex comes to play. In a simple statement, I will say, when you are mature enough to understand the concept of sex.
Most times, we are exaggerating about our sex experience before our friends to make them feel we are having an awesome time in our relationship. Especially guys, we exaggerate how good it feels and how much we’re having, we compete with each other and sometimes lie about how we had it or who we had it with, all just to boost our ego.
Also, the ever-increasing porn video on the internet has created a lot of sexual fantasy for most people. They have watched a lot of porn and think that that’s what a good sex experience should be, but I think that’s just you putting yourself in perpetual sadness as you might not get all that you desire in your quest to adventurous sex.
Now, just as I have said before, sex is great, enjoy it as it comes, it will not always give that amazing experience all the time, your partner might be a little less skillful or probably a complete novice.
One thing you must remember is that, just as you grow in love, you can grow in your sex life; you guys can learn together and have a great relationship. Don’t believe your friends or neighbor who kept telling you about how he or she is having a great sex experience he or she might just be lying.
Guide your relationship with sense and believe in your partner to get better.